A reflection of my thoughts on The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.
In the end, nothing matters but who you loved and how much you’ve loved them. The money you have. The titles you own. The businesses you’ve built. They are meaningless without people to share it with.
My relationships are so incredibly important to me. Human connection is the building block of life and so to invest time in understanding it is, in my opinion, CRUCIAL.
Therefore, I’ve invested time and effort into learning about how to enhance, grow and enrich all my relationships. Starting with the 5 Love Languages.
This book has been around for quite some time. And even though I feel like I’m late to the game, I still want to share my thoughts on it.
What is the 5 love languages?
To summarize this book (as best as I can), the author explains how each one of us has an emotional love tank. This tank is filled when we are being “spoken” to in our love languages. When our partner, or anyone really, speak our love language, we are happier. Plain and simple.
The five languages are:
Words of Affirmation
physical Touch
Quality Time
Gift Giving
Acts of Service
The beautiful thing about this book and its concept is that it’s not about taking taking taking, it’s about swallowing your pride AND giving. When we show love to others, we will get it reciprocated back. Of course, it’s not about keeping score, it’s about making the intention to improve a relationship. But it first starts with YOU.
What Myles and I did before we started reading the book together was take the quiz to see which love language we were. I found out that mine is Acts of Service and Words Of Affirmation. Myles is Quality Time and Physical Touch.
Once we found this out, we started being more conscious and aware of how we were showing love to one another. At first it was really freakin awkward. We felt like it was forced and a bit off but action creates emotion and the more you do something the easier it becomes. So we kept staying mindful of the 5 love languages and after a month or so, I can honestly say that it has made a difference in how we communicate and resolve conflict. We are more compassionate, kind and patient towards one another because we’ve been priming ourselves with positive emotions through speaking one another’s love language.
It’s a beautiful process. So I hope you take time to find out your love language and implement it with your loved ones. You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend to do this wth. Get your friends involved and learn which love language your family members are. It can’t hurt so why not give it a try right?
I hope you enjoyed this very first book review. I just ordered 4 brand new books and I’m excited to continue this new segment for this blog!
What are you currently reading?
xo
Bella
